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7 Simple Ways To Build Up Your Confidence At Social Functions

7 Simple Ways To Build Up Your Confidence At Social Functions
By Tania Jayatilaka
By Tania Jayatilaka
September 04, 2019
Small talk done right and social faux pas to avoid: Speech consultant & emcee Hafez Nasruddin offers these blunder-proof tips to impress the crowd at your next dinner party or networking event.
Besides his work as a speech consultant, Nasruddin divides his time managing his multiple Ombak Kitchen restaurants while seeing to details at his interior design firm, Fabello Design and his guest management system Weddie.
Besides his work as a speech consultant, Nasruddin divides his time managing his multiple Ombak Kitchen restaurants while seeing to details at his interior design firm, Fabello Design and his guest management system Weddie.

Political speechwriter, master of ceremonies, restaurateur and voice actor all in one. With multi-hyphenate Hafez Nasruddin in the room comes the comforting assurance that he’ll rarely be lack of an interesting story or two to keep the conversation flowing vibrantly.

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Whether it is well-timed joke, a genuine compliment or the subtle art of putting people at ease, Nasruddin’s superb speaking skills and extensive experience have led him to work with a wide range of clients, from corporates and celebrities to political leaders across the Asia, all with the sole mission of enhancing their professional and political growth.  

Read on for Nasruddin’s 7 handy tips to help you make a stellar first impression at your next social functions.

Be comfortable with yourself

Photo: All Is Amazing
Photo: All Is Amazing

True confidence comes from accepting yourself, embracing the good and the bad.

“First and foremost, be comfortable with your entire being: embrace your flaws and eliminate all insecurities," says Nasruddin. "This will result in a clear state of mind, smooth articulation and successful communication as a whole.”

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Be an active listener

Photo: All Is Amazing
Photo: All Is Amazing

If the first step is accepting yourself, the second is to STOP focusing on yourself. The best conversationalists are often the best listeners. 

“Start showing a genuine interest in people’s lives and experiences,” Nasruddin says. “To do that, you must learn the art of active listening. As small talk guru Debra Fine always advises one to become a ‘whole body’ listener - listen with your ears, your eyes, and your heart. Lean in to show others you’re really engaged.”

Dress to impress

Photo: Brian Liew /Malaysia Tatler
Photo: Brian Liew /Malaysia Tatler

“Always dress to impress. Wear a statement piece that tells a story and that defines you. It serves the dual function of an ice-breaker and an attention-getter.”

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Compliments over flattery

Photo: Mahathir Ramli Kamaruddin / Malaysia Tatler
Photo: Mahathir Ramli Kamaruddin / Malaysia Tatler

“In the words of George Herbert: ‘Good words are worth much and cost little’,” shares Nasruddin.

Rather than staying within your own clique, he suggests making it a point to approach people you don’tknow in the room and start connecting with them.

“Pay close to attention to what people around you are wearing and what they’re talking about exactly. Try to find something interesting to highlight and give compliments about. But of course, do it in moderation.”

The name game

Photo: Shaffiq Farhan / Malaysia Tatler
Photo: Shaffiq Farhan / Malaysia Tatler

The ability to remembering people’s names and honorary titles correctly will take you far in any networking event. When you’re first introduced to someone, learn their name and repeat it often, as this is a subtle yet effective way to win people over.

“When people tell you their names, make it a point to remember and say their names along the way,” says Nasruddin. “They will feel acknowledged and appreciated. You’ll instantly come across as kind and thoughtful, and they will open up to you. That in itself will open door to other possibilities.”

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Take advantage of the business cards

Photo: Steven Yap / Malaysia Tatler
Photo: Steven Yap / Malaysia Tatler

"Don’t just keep the business cards you receive. The cards should be the fuel to keep your conversation going.”

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Smartphones, good manners

Photo: Khairul Imran / Malaysia Tatler
Photo: Khairul Imran / Malaysia Tatler

Should you or should you not use your smartphone during a dinner function? Although this may spark a debate across generations and social conventions, Nasruddin’s stance is clear: “Try not to have your eyes glued on your phones all the time. That said, selfies and wefies are fine as a contemporary tool for warming up.”

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